How to Manage Stress & Tension - By Rick Allen, CH,CI,CSMC
Stress has always been a part of our lives. It is but a
common occurrence for people to hear someone complain of how stressful his life
had been in the school, in the workplace, or even with his family. This
situation happens everywhere regardless of race, nationality, status in life,
or level of education attained. Stress is just there clinging to us wherever we
go, and we can’t merely disregard this sad truth.
We must remember that in whatever we do, there are just
some inevitable factors that cause pressure and anxiety to us. On the other
hand, there are those that we can control. We must therefore be sensible enough
to differentiate the two so that we do not end up wasting our time, effort,
money and abilities on matters that we can’t change.
Enumerated below is some helpful advice on how to cope
with tension.
1. Identify what makes you anxious and uneasy. Making a list of your stressful
experiences is useful. Immediately deal with the issues that you can change
like waking-up late for work in the morning or beating deadlines during the
last minute. Forget about the ones that you can’t influence like being stuck in
a traffic jam or not getting into the elevator because there is no space left.
something
they really don’t want to do or find uncomfortable.
2. Calm down. A three-minute break would do you good. You can go to the
bathroom and wash your face, sneak out to buy a candy bar, or inhale fresh air.
You can also listen to relaxing music, punch a pillow, or call someone.
Releasing your inner feelings to a good friend is a healthy option.
3. It will pass; it will be over before you know it. Constantly reminding yourself that
the stressful event “will end sooner or later” can make you see the positive
sides of things. At the same time, stabilize your emotions and think of what is
the best thing to do rather than take your energy away from what needs to be
done.
4. Know yourself. Ask yourself: What triggers your
anxiety? If it is
your job, then maybe it’s the right time for you to reconsider whether it would
be best to find a less stressful job. You can also make your present job more
bearable by allowing yourself to get that needed vacation or leave. Never tire
yourself of thinking what can’t be changed immediately, like a new memorandum
assigning you to a new work schedule that you don’t prefer. In due time, things
will get better as you adjust to your work.
Eventually, you have two choices. You could change the
situation or you could accept it. There’s no other way around it.
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Eight Helpful Tips in Dealing with Anxiety
- By
Rick Allen, CH,CI,CSMC
Anxiety is the feeling of fear or apprehension that is intense
enough to disrupt one's daily activities. It hits anyone at any point in their
lives, regardless of sex and age. If you suffer from anxiety and you let
anxiety overcome you, you then let stress and unhappiness overrule you, through
being paralyzed by anxiety. You need to learn how to overcome it or at least
reduce its effects. Here are twelve tips that can help you conquer anxiety:
1. Be the master of your
thoughts. Inability to control what you think strengthens your tendency for
anxiety. Anxiety gains momentum when you entertain negative thoughts.
2. Practice
self-discipline and control over your feelings. Anxiety is like
taking a ride on a rollercoaster. Once you start entertaining negative thoughts
and fears, they become a mantra that would perpetuate themselves. The best
thing to do is to cut them off right then and there. Distract yourself, divert
your thoughts, or go talk to someone and have him or her correct your fears.
Most of the time, anxious thoughts are distortions of reality. It is best to
have someone tell you the objective facts, and show you that you are grossly
exaggerating your fears. If they are valid, you can seek reassurance of a happy
outcome or have the other person suggest ways to work around the problem/s you
face.
3. Think positive. As they say, try to
think of the glass as being half-full. Thinking it is half-empty will only
result in a never-ending cycle of negative thinking. Thoughts give birth to
thoughts, and what you fill your mind with will spill over into reality. Our
mental mantras become self-fulfilling prophecies. When we allow thoughts to
perpetuate in our minds, they burst forth into reality as, as was said,
self-fulfilling prophecies. The key is not to go "I won't think
negatively. I won't think negatively." Rather, you should force yourself
to fixate on positive thoughts. Write a list of the things you want to
be and the things you want to happen in your life, enough that you could say
every single morning within 3 minutes, to yourself. Then every morning, when
you wake up or before you leave for work or school, say your affirmations to
yourself. Example: "I am beautiful, articulate, and I will make that sale
today!" Then all throughout the day, when you catch yourself worrying,
stop in your tracks, and force yourself to enumerate 5 things you are thankful
for today. Repeat as needed.
4. Keep yourself busy and
on the go. Never allow yourself to have idle moments. The moment you get up
from bed, keep yourself busy right away and keep moving throughout the day.
Volunteer to clean the house for the day or tell somebody that you will do the
dishes for dinner. You can also read books or magazines, engage in exercise, or
meditate; to keep yourself from worrying/anxiety. Being idle will not solve
your problems and the moments when your mind isn't busy doing something
worthwhile will only invite more anxiety.
5. Work out a plan and
try to accomplish it. Whether it's how to improve yourself or a plan to solve the very
problem that is causing your anxieties, doing this exercise would let you see
that you can do something about your situation. This would also help you
realize that you have control over yourself. Increasing control over your own
life leads you to feel less anxious, because anxiety is an issue of control:
the lack of it.
6. Consult someone that
can be trusted. Sharing your worries with another person lightens the worries
and puts them in the proper perspective. The premise is that you talk with the
aim to lessen your anxiety.
7. Laughter is the best medicine. Laughter can ease
your burdens. Be in the company of amusing friends or indulge in activities
that can put laughter in your life, like watching The Three Stooges.
8. If current issues make
you anxious, switch off the television. Reduce the time you spend watching news and
avoid watching shows that depress and make you more anxious before you go to
sleep. Though professional help is needed in extreme cases, anxiety is
manageable, if you know how to get around it. Do follow these helpful tips and you will see your
anxieties eased.
To
discover how hypnosis can help you to overcome habits, control stress,
eliminate fears visit : www.NewLifeHypnosisCenter.com
Winning the Rat Race: Surviving Stress - By Rick Allen, CH,CI,CSMC
Today’s
world is all about instant gratification and moving forward at a dizzying pace,
and this can wreak havoc on your health. You dare not get left behind, and in
your rush to catch the train or meet the deadline, your physical, mental, and
emotional wellbeing suffers. Sound familiar?
Though
short-term stress is quite healthy and necessary to stimulate your immune
system, chronic, or long-term, stress does just the opposite. Your adrenal
glands release stress hormones—cortisol in particular—during taxing situations
and cortisol is responsible for kicking the immune system into high gear. But
when you are bombarded with stress on a continual basis, the body develops a
resistance to cortisol and the immune system stops responding, leaving you
vulnerable to all sorts of stress-related health problems.
The best
way to counter these ill effects is to get enough rest. It is through adequate
sleep (at least seven hours every night) that the rising levels of cortisol in
the body can be kept in check.
Know when
to give yourself a break. At the rate you’re going, you’ll work yourself right
into the grave. No one will hold it against you for wanting to take a
breather. Do it deeply—not just regular respiration, but actually savoring
every breath. Utilize your diaphragm rather than your lungs, and count four to
five seconds while inhaling through your nose, and another four to five seconds
exhaling through your mouth. Then repeat the exercise ten times. Not only is
this a great way to relax but it slows your heart rate and lessens anxiety. It
also helps to lower blood pressure.
Another
thing that does wonders for blood pressure is to own a pet. Having a canine or
feline companion has been known to reduce stress and help overcome depression.
Just make sure you’re not allergic.
Learn
proper time management. Despite what you may think, there is no such thing as
having no time. Everyone has it. Rather, it is how you budget your time that
makes all the difference in the world. And if you believe your schedule is
getting just a wee bit unmanageable, don’t be afraid to speak up and say so.
Prioritize. You don’t have to say yes to every task thrown your way.
Manage
your finances. It is a widely known fact that money problems equal a whole lot
of stress. Save yourself (and your wallet) the heartache by reading helpful
materials on the subject, like “The Six New Rules of Rich” by Oliver Broudy (Men’s
Health, March 2007).
Clean up
your act. Free yourself and your living space from clutter. Get rid of
eyesores you’ve accumulated through the years. Give whatever you no longer
need to charity.
Speaking
of charity, be more involved in social or civic work. When you expose yourself
to the hardships of others, your own problems will seem less burdensome and you
will have more courage and energy to face them.
If it can
be helped at all, try to stay away from stressful situations. You may be able
to give your life some semblance of order, but outside factors could just as
easily destroy what you have worked so hard to build. Keep your cool. If you
find yourself losing your temper over the slightest altercation, count to ten
before retaliating. This will give you time to calm down and address the
problem in a more rational manner. Lessen noise. If you can’t do that, then
don’t contribute to it. Avoid toxic people as their condition is highly
contagious. Of course, we don’t recommend you duck under a table or run for
your life each time you cross paths, but don’t allow their overanxious nature
to encroach on your own unstressed disposition.
The
frenetic rat race that human progress has become exacts a high price, and the
finish line is as elusive as ever. But perhaps this is one race where the
ideal would be to slow down.
To
discover how hypnosis can help you to overcome habits, control stress,
eliminate fears visit : www.NewLifeHypnosisCenter.com
Mind Control over Body - By Rick Allen, CH,CI,CSMC
What your body can do
depends on what your mind can conceive. It’s all like a camera. Whatever the
lens captures, the film prints. Don’t expect a photo of something that was not
captured by the lens.
The body can only come up with a potential that the mind
can imagine. The mind is designed as a command center, and the body serves as
production department. When the mind is strong, the body will obey. When the
mind is creative, the body will create accordingly.
When the reverse happens, inability sets in. When the mind
is weak and overwhelmed, the body takes over and commands the mind. Thus, at
the slightest hint of difficulty and pain, the body will give up and tell the
mind it can do no more.
The mind can do nothing except agree with the spoiled
body, and quit. When the body doesn’t feel like doing anything—like, when you
feel lazy and any excuse will do for not getting out of bed—and the mind is too
weak to oppose that, you have a case of a body being atop the head. And from
that abnormal scenario will flow an equally abnormal life. All issues in life
will spread from that, and you will have a total wreck in your hands.
The head ought to be always on top of the body, and this
means the body ought to obey the mind always. Many may ask, “What if the mind
is also a wreck and commands the body to stay dormant?” This scenario is often
mistaken as a lazy mind commanding the body into idleness. Many experts say a
healthy mind actually always opts for a positive course of action, never
inaction. When the mind seems to work otherwise, it is proof of a subverted
mind controlled by a spoiled, pampered body. It thinks negatively and unproductively
precisely because the body has taught and controlled it to be thus.
The mind can be strengthened by training it to make
decisions the body will obey. If you adopt a life principle, make sure
everything you do is based on it. The mind decides what is right and the body
is given practical things to do in relation to it.
Once the mind decides something the body is unwilling to
do, a tug-of-war starts. It is in such conflict that the body must be
disciplined to succumb to the mind. If this is accomplished, the mind is
strengthened and given authority over the body, which is trained to respond
positively to such authority. The person becomes “highly principled.” As this
goes on, the mind is promoted to heights never before imagined, and dares (and is
encouraged) to go beyond limits, tugging the body along the way. The body does
what it is told to do. So the body begins to outdo itself as the mind imagines
it to be doing so.
When the head is put in its rightful place of authority
over the body, limitless potentials break out of their hiding and release the
ace champion in a person.
To
discover how hypnosis can help you to overcome habits, control stress,
eliminate fears visit : www.NewLifeHypnosisCenter.com
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